The main thing keeping you from fit AND happy is the mindset you have about yourself?
Why the Mindset You Have About Yourself is Keeping You Locked in Your Food, Body, and Exercise Prison...and is pushing you further into it.
Are Most of Your Days Spent Thinking About Food???
At the End of Your Life:
Do You Want to look Back and See How much you missed?
Etc, etc, etc....you know the list goes on and on and on....
Do You Want to Look Back and See a Life Well Lived?
One where you loved the skin you're in and soaked out EVERY amount of pleasure life has to offer?
Hi! I'm Ashley,
Masters degreed exercise physiologist, personal trainer, and owner of Brainy Betties in Coxsackie, NY.
I want you to know that...
I'VE BEEN THERE!!!!
I Know You Feel...
-Like you're the only person who can't get their act together with food
-Ashamed when you eat certain food or certain amounts
-Like your body is "gross" and you think "How could anyone love me like this?"
-Etc, etc, etc...
When I was a young, I bought into the idea that my body was less than worthy-that I was less than worthy...
Of course I thought I would “fix this problem."
This started my obsession with running. Because at the time, that’s what I thought I had to do to be fit (it’s not btw.) But, I would run for miles on end. This in combination with hating my body, triggered my unhealthy relationship with food.
There were so many times in my life where I would:
After not getting the body I wanted through running,
These made my food, exercise, and body obsessions worse!!!
To make matters worse, since I was forced to live in their “box” of what I “could” and “could not” do, I had to rely on willpower to stay the course. This along with not seeing the results I wanted, fueled the obsessions...I thought I must be weak for not being able to stick with these programs (when in reality this wasn't the truth.)
And of course, I would go through periods of being EXHAUSTED with this way of "living", would give up for a while, and then try something else later.
Knowledge gives you power...as cheesy as that is
By learning how to get rid of the shame/'All or Nothing'/'Good and Bad'/Perfectionism mindsets around them
I was now fit (but it wasn't "good enough"), and I was only partially happy. I was happy that my exercise and food were so much more efficient, and my relationship with food and exercise had improved.
But, the constant thoughts about food and exercise were still lingering around....and the obsessions with my body were DEFINITELY still there.
I wasn't truly happy because even though I was fit, my self-worth was still on my body.
This was when I realized something was missing...
To EVER get a woman to fit AND happy (truly happy in her life and in her skin) her mindset about herself and where her worth is needs to be healed.
Our culture is always telling women that their value is on how they look…and we can either continue to accept this message and let it drive our lives OR we can discover and embody a new one....
And this is why I’ve Created Brainy Betties
After taking my self-worth off of my body and becoming FULLY fit AND happy I am now obsessed with helping other women feel this sense of freedom and joy too.
After 15 years in the food, body, and exercise prison, I finally escaped!!! And I couldn’t be happier to live MY life….
Having our thoughts CONSTANTLY being consumed with how our body looks, what we’re eating, or whether we’re going to be able to exercise or not takes soooo much joy from our lives.
Not only that, it takes your focus away from what you’re actually supposed to be doing here...on earth.
I can assure you, you weren’t put here to obsess about your food, body, or exercise 24/7.
Some of my formal degrees and certifications are:
-M.A. Exercise Physiology: The College of St. Scholastica Duluth, MN
-National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM) Certified Personal Trainer
-Onnit Academy Certified Trainer: Nutrition, mobility, proper body alignment, and the use of unconventional tools (Kettlebells, battling ropes, sandbags, suspension, steel mace, and steel club.)
Learn More About Me and My Qualifications, Here: Owner Bio
What Does Fit AND Happy Feel Like???
Freedom from obsessing about food, obsessing about exercise, and obsessing about your body.
Freedom to be in control of your OWN life, live YOUR life the way you want, and have the fitness level you desire all at the same time.
Like I said, I was right where you are right now!
I know the pain you live in every single day.
It doesn't have to be like this.
***If this is your goal
What the Brainy Betties Have to Say!
How Brainy Betties Gets You to Fit AND Happy!
The F.A.B. Life
Brainy Betties' own educational program to get you to fit AND happy!
Create a FIT body that has the ability to fully live
Discover the self-love to be happy in your own skin and live as who you really are (living as your AUTHENTIC self)
Create the BALANCE in your life to truly enjoy living and being fit long-term.
How FIT Gets You to Fit AND Happy
FIT gives you freedom, efficiency, and clarity with food and exercise.
FIT does this by...
*If this is your goal
To be efficient in the long-term you want your exercise structured in a way that you’re creating a more efficient body that works for you even when you’re sitting on the couch…aka optimizing your hormones/metabolism.
Your long-term focus should be creating a more efficient body, not burning as many calories as possible.
Having proper form is key to ensure the results you desire AND keep you safe
When you work out in an efficient way (one based in science) that feels good AND you start seeing how well that works, you prove to yourself that all those negative mindsets you have around exercise are unnecessary and ultimately standing in the way of your success.
How AUTHENTIC gets you to fit AND happy!
AUTHENTIC gives you freedom and peace in your body and self (As you are right now!!! Physical change not required!)
AUTHENTIC does this by...
***Our body image section is highly based off the work of Lindsey and Lexie Kite (twin sisters with their PHDs in Media and Body Image) from the non-profit Beauty Redefined.
“Positive Body Image Isn’t Believing Your Body Looks Good, It’s Knowing Your Body is Good Regardless of What it Looks Like.”
Body image (how you feel about your body) is all programming. We weren’t born hating our bodies and thinking we’re less than worthy, this has been learned. We take what we’ve heard about what’s “beautiful” as a fact. But, it’s anything but…
This narrow beauty “ideal” has been created by the media so the majority of women become dissatisfied with their appearance…and buy the products being sold to “fix” themselves.
You hating your body/appearance is a multibillion dollar business.
But, believe it or not, you can break free from this programming/body prison. Here’s how…
1. Realize what deeper messages you’re living out…things your subconscious thinks are true, but aren’t, and are just thoughts on auto-pilot.
2. Notice how these subconscious messages are affecting your everyday life
3. Then explore the validity of these messages (when we dig deep, are these thoughts even true???)
1. When you learn how to expand your view of beauty beyond the typical cultural “ideal” and see beauty in a variety of different people, it helps you to see it in yourself.
2. When you evaluate health in a different way (habits vs. looks) it helps you to better carry out your healthy habits.
We’ve been taught to think that JUST because a person looks a certain way means they can’t be healthy. Well, science shows that it’s usually our healthy habits (or lack thereof) that determines our health… not the way our body looks.
Whenever we judge others it’s really us judging ourselves.
When we make a comment about another person’s appearance (even if only in our head) it’s because we’re insecure in that area. The comment makes us “feel better” because we’re “winning” the comparison game.
But, in reality, it’s this comparison game that’s keeps us judging ourselves…keeps us locked in our body prison.
The above 2 points help you stop judging others so you can stop judging yourself.
How BALANCED gets you to fit AND happy!
BALANCED brings harmony to other areas of your life that affect your ability to be fit AND happy in the real world.
BALANCED does this by...
Why Brainy Betties is the Obvious Choice
How Brainy Betties is different from other fitness programs
Unlike most fitness programs (that only address the straight forward exercise and food pieces to fitness), Brainy Betties Makes sure you:
Address the emotional aspects of your food, exercise, body, or self...the things that are ACTUALLY driving your behaviors
Have all the tools (knowledge) to continue your journey without my help...unlike most where you pay for a session or a class and are then left in the dark on how to replicate it on your own.
Have learned how to develop intrinsic motivation...so you don't have to keep relying on an outside source for motivation