The main thing keeping you from fit AND happy is the mindset you have about yourself?
Why the Mindset You Have About Yourself is Keeping You Locked in Your Food, Body, and Exercise Prison...and is pushing you further into it.
Why to Be Fit AND Happy, You Also Need CORRECT Science to Go Hand in Hand with Healing Your Mindset…diets and fad exercise programs (and their pseudoscience) are also keeping you locked in your prison.
How You Can Discover What Diet and Fad Exercise Companies DON’T Want You to Know
Are Most of Your Days Spent Thinking About Food???
At the End of Your Life:
Do You Want to look Back and See How much you missed?
Etc, etc, etc....you know the list goes on and on and on....
Do You Want to Look Back and See a Life Well Lived?
One where you loved the skin you're in and soaked out EVERY amount of pleasure life has to offer?
Hi! I'm Ashley,
Masters degreed exercise physiologist, personal trainer, and owner of Brainy Betties in Coxsackie, NY.
I want you to know that...
I'VE BEEN THERE!!!!
I Know You Feel...
-Like you're the only person who can't get their act together with food
-Ashamed when you eat certain food or certain amounts
-Like your body is "gross" and you think "How could anyone love me like this?"
-Etc, etc, etc...
When I was a young, I bought into the idea that my body was less than worthy-that I was less than worthy...
Of course I thought I would “fix this problem."
This started my obsession with running. Because at the time, that’s what I thought I had to do to be fit (it’s not btw.) But, I would run for miles on end. This in combination with hating my body, triggered my unhealthy relationship with food.
There were so many times in my life where I would:
Eat in hiding (eating 30 chocolate chip cookies in the dark comes to mind)
Scrutinize my body in the mirror in attempt to stay away from “bad” food (wishing I could cut off certain areas of my body)
Punish myself with hours of exercise when I ate something “bad”
Eat ALL THE FOOD so I wouldn’t have to worry about giving into it later.
After not getting the body I wanted through running,
These made my food, exercise, and body obsessions worse!!!
To make matters worse, since I was forced to live in their “box” of what I “could” and “could not” do, I had to rely on willpower to stay the course. This along with not seeing the results I wanted, fueled the obsessions...I thought I must be weak for not being able to stick with these programs (when in reality this wasn't the truth.)
And of course, I would go through periods of being EXHAUSTED with this way of "living", would give up for a while, and then try something else later.
Knowledge gives you power...as cheesy as that is
By learning how to get rid of the shame/'All or Nothing'/'Good and Bad'/Perfectionism mindsets around them
I was now fit (but it wasn't "good enough"), and I was only partially happy. I was happy that my exercise and food were so much more efficient, and my relationship with food and exercise had improved.
But, the constant thoughts about food and exercise were still lingering around....and the obsessions with my body were DEFINITELY still there.
I wasn't truly happy because even though I was fit, my self-worth was still on my body.
This was when I realized something was missing...
To EVER get a woman to fit AND happy (truly happy in her life and in her skin) her mindset about herself and where her worth is needs to be healed.
Our culture is always telling women that their value is on how they look…and we can either continue to accept this message and let it drive our lives OR we can discover and embody a new one....
And this is why I’ve Created Brainy Betties
After taking my self-worth off of my body and becoming FULLY fit AND happy I am now obsessed with helping other women feel this sense of freedom and joy too.
After 15 years in the food, body, and exercise prison, I finally escaped!!! And I couldn’t be happier to live MY life….
Having our thoughts CONSTANTLY being consumed with how our body looks, what we’re eating, or whether we’re going to be able to exercise or not takes soooo much joy from our lives.
Not only that, it takes your focus away from what you’re actually supposed to be doing here...on earth.
I can assure you, you weren’t put here to obsess about your food, body, or exercise 24/7.
Some of my formal degrees and certifications are:
-M.A. Exercise Physiology: The College of St. Scholastica Duluth, MN
-National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM) Certified Personal Trainer
-Onnit Academy Certified Trainer: Nutrition, mobility, proper body alignment, and the use of unconventional tools (Kettlebells, battling ropes, sandbags, suspension, steel mace, and steel club.)
Learn More About Me and My Qualifications, Here: Owner Bio
What Does Fit AND Happy Feel Like???
Freedom from obsessing about food, obsessing about exercise, and obsessing about your body.
Freedom to be in control of your OWN life, live YOUR life the way you want, and have the fitness level you desire all at the same time.
Like I said, I was right where you are right now!
I know the pain you live in every single day.
It doesn't have to be like this.
***If this is your goal
What the Brainy Betties Have to Say!
How Brainy Betties Gets You to Fit AND Happy!
The F.A.B. Life
Brainy Betties' own educational program to get you to fit AND happy!
Create a FIT body that has the ability to fully live
Discover the self-love to be happy in your own skin and live as who you really are (living as your AUTHENTIC self)
Create the BALANCE in your life to truly enjoy living and being fit long-term.
How FIT gets you to fit AND happy!
FIT gives you freedom, efficiency, and clarity with food and exercise.
FIT does this by...
Learn how to mindfully eat...how to listen to your body and what it needs, and how to be more aware during the eating process to minimize excess food consumption
Learn basic food science...to mindfully eat effectively, you want to know how to certain foods and combinations breakdown in your body (i.e. what foods/combinations lead to satiety vs. cravings and hunger.)
*If this is your goal
It’s NOT just about a caloric deficit, it’s about balanced hormones too!
Learning how different foods affect your body...to keep you in a deficit more naturally
Becoming in-tune with the natural feed back of your body...to know when you’re in an appropriate and balanced caloric deficit
Learning how to program exercise to lose fat more efficiently and make keeping it off sooo much easier
Over-exercising or exercise program design that isn't conducive to fat loss
Years of dieting...learn why this has slowed your metabolism and how you can reverse it!
Thinking you need to be “perfect” with your food choices to get the results you want is EXACTLY what’s causing you to lose control over your food…because it leads to ‘all or nothing’ eating.
Ever start eating healthy and because you “gave in" to a cookie, you’re now:
“Bad” and "fall off the wagon?"
Might as well eat a bunch of cookies because you already "gave in?"
And now you “need” to start over on Monday?
But, do you find Monday never comes, or you just spend your life starting over on Monday?
Healing your food perfectionism will put YOU in control...Mondays will be irrelevant and you will be able to say "buh bye" to your wagon.
It's learning and overcoming the mental and biological triggers that are making you overeat
As with food, perfectionism with exercise is the biggest cause of failure…because it leads to ‘all or nothing.’
Thinking you ALWAYS have to do your whole workout (or that it doesn’t “count”) OR if you miss a workout you “fell off the wagon” creates a relationship based on willpower.
Willpower is exhaustible.
So, the ‘all or nothing’ either ends up being nothing or turns exercise into punishment…
Using exercise as punishment:
Exercising when your body is saying “No!”.. not listening to your body and honoring it when it needs a break is not nourishment, it’s punishment. This leads to quitting or a lifetime of exercise being a stressful/negative experience.
For eating something unhealthy…creates a torturous relationship with exercise (and perpetuates the never-ending “I have to work that food off” mindset”)
Thinking your workouts need to suck to be effective... thinking you need to annihilate yourself during your workouts is not only scientifically incorrect, but also adds un-needed stress…mentally and biologically
Exercise should be making your life better (physically, mentally, and spiritually.) Not adding ANOTHER thing to stress or feel judged about.
When you work out in an efficient way (one based in science) that feels good AND you start seeing how well that works, you prove to yourself that the negative mindsets you have around exercise are unnecessary and are standing in the way of your success.
To be efficient in the long-term, you want your exercise structured so you’re creating a more efficient body that works for you even when you’re sitting on the couch…aka optimizing your hormones/metabolism.
Your long-term focus should be creating a more efficient body, not burning as many calories as possible.
How AUTHENTIC gets you to fit AND happy!
AUTHENTIC gives you freedom and peace in your body and self (As you are right now!!! No physical change required!)
AUTHENTIC does this by...
***Brainy Betties' body image education references work of Lindsey and Lexie Kite (twin sisters with their PHDs in Media and Body Image) from the non-profit Beauty Redefined...
“Having positive body image isn’t believing your body looks good; it’s knowing your body is good, regardless of how it looks.
It isn’t thinking you are beautiful; it’s knowing you are more than beautiful.
It’s understanding that your body is an instrument for your use, not an ornament to be admired.”
-Lindsey Kite Phd, Beauty Redefined
Body image (how you feel about your body) is all programming. We weren’t born hating our bodies and thinking we’re less than worthy, this has been learned...
1. Your worth as a woman is determined by how closely aligned you are with the cultural beauty “ideal.” That you ARE YOUR body…That you're here to be a decoration first, person second.
2. If you don't fall within the narrow (and most times fake) cultural beauty "ideal" you don't have the right to feel beautiful...an "ideal" that 99% of the time no normal woman could achieve.
Having a narrow cultural beauty “ideal”
Has been created by the media so the majority of women become dissatisfied with their appearance…and buy the products being sold to “fix” themselves.
But, believe it or not, you can break free from this programming/body prison. Here’s how…
Our self-talk is what shapes our WHOLE life. It’s what allows us to live the life we want, or continue staying stuck in our prison.
AUTHENTIC will help you:
Realize what deeper (untrue) messages you're living out
Notice how these subconscious thoughts are affecting your everyday life
Commit to practicing new thoughts based in reality
Examples of shame:
Stepping on the scale and it putting you in a bad/sad mood for the rest of the day
Looking in the mirror or at a picture of yourself and zooming in on what you hate
Someone saying: “You said you’re trying to be healthier, should you be eating that?”
Someone saying “I thought you’ve been working out, it doesn’t look like it!”
As we’re building ourselves up (creating a healthier body image), shame will tear us down and potentially make us quit...if we don’t know how to properly deal with it.
This effect is something that we need to minimize to continue making progress.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel beautiful (this is a personal choice.)
The problem is having our worth attached to our feelings of beauty AND thinking beauty can only fall under the narrow (and usually fake) "ideals" set by the media.
These narrow "ideals" can be astronomically expanded on …we just have to learn how.
Feeling great in your body isn’t just about developing a better body image.
***See Feel Confident in Yourself (coming soon)
How BALANCED gets you to fit AND happy!
BALANCED brings harmony and efficiency to other areas of your life that affect your ability to be fit AND happy in the real world.
BALANCED does this by...
Why Brainy Betties is the Obvious Choice
How Brainy Betties is different from other fitness programs
Unlike most fitness programs (that only address the straight forward exercise and food pieces to fitness), Brainy Betties Makes sure you:
Address the emotional aspects of your food, exercise, body, or self...the things that are ACTUALLY driving your behaviors
Have all the tools (knowledge) to continue your journey without my help...unlike most where you pay for a session or a class and are then left in the dark on how to replicate it on your own.
Have learned how to develop intrinsic motivation...so you don't have to keep relying on an outside source for motivation
ARE YOU READY TO BECOME A BRAINY BETTY?
Brainy Betties is a long-term practice that takes time and commitment.
Learning how to live your fittest and happiest life is not easy. But, WELL worth it.
Are you ready to put the time in and take charge of your life?